Self acceptance and Self nurturing.

"To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don't need to be accepted by others. You just need to accept yourself" - Thich Nhat Hanh

Do you give yourself a hard time with your thoughts? Being self-critical and judgemental? 'I'm so stupid.... If only I'd said "such and such" instead.... If only I was tall... skinny... blonde... witty...' Your thoughts contain power over your mind, body and spirit and you can choose a different way.

Many of us seem to struggle with this lack of self-nurturing. Our society seems to associate self-love with selfishness or arrogance, however this is far from the truth. If you are able to love and accept yourself, you are then able to open your heart to others and see the divine essence within each one of us.  One of the most important things we can do for our own wellbeing and those around us is to be kind to ourselves. Self-nurturing and Self-compassion are essential for our personal growth and to love and support those around us.

Loving ourselves includes accepting all aspects of ourselves, including those things we do not like. We are complex beings and there is far more to us than the acceptable face we show in public. Embrace yourself as a whole and bring each part of yourself into the fold.

It is pointless and frustrating when we need to find love from an external source, as it is always subject to change, and causes us to be dependent on someone else for our happiness. Co-dependent love can lead to dysfunctional relationships and expectations that may never be fulfilled, resulting in disappointment.

There are certain aspects to the art of Self-love which include Self awareness, Self worth, Self esteem, Self confidence and Self respect. These aspects can be learned and practised as we go through life.  The Love vibrational mist can be used to strengthen love and acceptance of the Self and assist the healing process by misting above the head and speaking aloud the affirmation –

I am loved

I am loving

I am lovable

I love and accept myself

As I am

Instead of looking outward, turn within for a moment and make a list of the things that you like about yourself. It may be something physical, something that you are good at, or even better, something from the essence of who you truly are.

Try this interesting experiment. Look in the mirror. Look yourself in the eye and say (out loud) “I love you”. Add your name as well. Eg. “(name), I really love you”. Can you do it? Use the affirmation above on a daily basis to strengthen self acceptance and kindness towards the Self.

There is such peace in accepting and embracing your true Self.  No-one can escape from their individuality. Instead choose to express yourself with enthusiasm and not spend time worrying about what others might think.

Be yourself…  Trust yourself...  Embrace yourself completely just the way you are.  Self nurturing is so important, because if you can believe in and love yourself, it is so much easier to love and support others…       

Be kind to yourself today and every day.